ARE YOU READY FOR LOVE?
Too many people enter relationships without having the right foundations and end up with failed and unhappy relationships.
If you are missing real unconditional love in your life, no matter what you have will not be enough long term. You also won’t see that you don’t need people to see your worth, because you already know and feel worthy.
When we are truly self aware and have the ability to tell the truth about ourselves and be unconditionally loving towards others, we nourish our soul. Our soul desires to be loved and be loving. When we love unconditionally, we have acceptance, genuine peace, happiness and love.
With unconditional love there is no control, no manipulation, no conflict, no shame, no guilt, no anger, no fear, no disappointments, no expectations, no blame, no confusion, no victimhood and no drama.
If you are disappointed, afraid or angry then your cup of love is empty. If you are loved unconditionally then your empty cup of love can become full and have the ability to be unconditionally loving too, if you have the willingness. When your cup is overflowing you also become an example of love.
So if and when conflicts do arise they can be resolved easily and peacefully and any negativity has little affect.
When you have two people who are equally unconditionally loving within a relationship it becomes so easy, fulfilling and the most amazing relationship ever.
In a real loving relationship there is trust, total honesty and truth telling and is a real partnership for life.
The reality is that so very few people in the world know or understand what real unconditional love is and hence why we have the conflicts in the world and why there is so much pain, suffering and mental health issues.
An example of unloving manipulative behaviour is “people pleasing” because ultimately it is to get something for yourself.
The childhood emotional traumas and emotional wounds of adulthood need to be healed first before considering entering into a relationship.
The self-love/love yourself theory is so unnecessary because;
A child that has fallen down and broken his/her leg and is wounded and hurt can not love him/herself, they need to feel love, and have the care and attention they need in order to heal their wounds.
They need to FEEL their parents love and need their parents guidance to be shown how to not get hurt and not be taken advantage of or made into a doormat. They become strong emotionally and feel invincible to achieve whatever they were destined to become.
If it was possible for that child to love him or herself they would not be emotionally wounded.
The self-love/love yourself theory keeps people in pain and suffering for longer because it is difficult, and adds to separation when running away from an opportunity to be loving and experience feeling loved. Loving yourself also only serves the egos and the narcissistic part of our personality.
If you were able to truly love yourself you would not have got hurt in the first place. People need guidance because they can be blind to what they can not see for themselves. It is far easier for an onlooker to see a situation better than when you are emotionally involved.
Anyone can choose to love. You do not need to love yourself in order for me to love you and care about your happiness. Anyone who has the willingness, capacity and ability to love unconditionally can offer love. It is always your choice and your decision to accept that love.
As adults, responsibility (self care and self respect) for one’s own happiness is needed to get the love they need and know WHAT they are responsible for, they are NOT responsible for someone else’s happiness. As adults they are only responsible for their own happiness and the happiness of their children who are dependent on them.
Being loving is a choice, you do not need to love yourself in order for you to love someone. It is a choice and always a decision for the reciever to trust the love that is offered to them and to accept.
I can choose to love someone freely without expectation or wanting anything in return. My love does not empty out and I don’t need them to accept it either, of course it is better for them if they do hear my message.
Unconditional love is limitless. It flows one way from the giver to the receiver. Conditional love is like trading, you get something from it.
Unconditional love is simple, it’s what parents needed to give to their children as they were growing up to help them be emotionally complete and genuinely happy.
Just to be clear here I am not blaming parents either, because they themselves also may not have had it, to give in the first place. They did the best they could with what experience and knowledge they had at the time. They still have opportunity to learn to do better.
When someone is hurting it is understandable that they are in fear of trusting because they have been hurt and lied to so many times before, hence why they find it difficult to surrender to real unconditional love to begin with. Over time they start to feel and experience what it really feels like being truly loved.
Of course the sooner they trust the sooner they become peaceful, happier and fearless and learn how to be loving too.
Because people have not experienced what is real unconditional love which is very simple and natural, naturally they over complicate things with expectations and the lack of understanding and come up with so many theories to fill the missing gap in their experience, for instance, “you need to love yourself”.
This theory may have only been a marketing ploy, to keep you feeling not good enough and also goes to keep you buying more and more of whatever they are selling. A lot of industries play on people’s insecurities of being not good enough, i.e. the looking good industry.
You can not think yourself into feeling loved. You need to feel and experience it firsthand to know what it feels like to be loved unconditionally, so you know how to love another unconditionally.
No matter what you try out, you will still be constantly searching because you are missing the single most important thing you need in your life to help you feel enough, which is real unconditional love. The constant search can lead you to having addictions, unhelpful behaviours and mental health issues.
The issues and problems we see in society is because of the lack of unconditional love and compassion, it is also affecting climate change too.
It is important for anyone considering a new relationship to not settle for anything less than an unconditionally loving relationship, when looking for a life partner.
Even if you are already in a relationship, it can be transformed to a much happier amazing relationship with real unconditional love.
If you would like dating or relationship advice I can help, and offer services to help heal those lifelong emotional traumas and wounds for anyone who is serious about changing their life and transforming their relationships.
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